Here are some thoughtful deep questions to ask your partner to help you get to know your partner on a deeper level. I’ve grouped them by topic to make things easier. Just remember to ask with an open heart, really listen, and be willing to share your own answers too, because that’s where the real connection happens.

Questions About Their Family

1. What’s one of your happiest childhood memories involving your family?
2. What’s a family tradition you cherish most?
3. How did your family celebrate special occasions?
4. What’s a lesson your family taught you that still sticks with you?
5. Is there anything you wish you had learned from your family sooner?
6. What role do you feel you played in your family growing up?
7. What’s one thing you admire most about your parents/guardians?
8. If you could ask your ancestors one question, what would it be?
9. How does your family handle disagreements and arguments?
10. What’s a funny family story you love to tell everyone?
11. What’s one value your family always emphasized?
12. How has your relationship with your family changed over time?
13. What’s something unique about your family that people might not know?

Questions About Their Childhood & Upbringing

1. What was your favorite game that you used to play as a child?
2. What’s one thing you were really good at as a kid?
3. What was your biggest childhood fear?
4. What’s a dream you had as a child that still makes you smile?
5. Who was your biggest role model when you were little?
6. What’s a childhood memory that always makes you laugh?
7. What’s one piece of advice you’d give your younger self?
8. What did you think you’d be when you grew up?
9. What was your favorite toy? Do you still have it with you?
10. What’s a difficult moment from your childhood that shaped you?
11. What was your favorite book or story as a child?
12. What’s a simple pleasure you enjoyed as a kid that you still love?
13. How did your childhood shape your views on money/work?

Questions About Their Bonding with Cousins & Relatives

1. Do you have a favorite cousin or relative you were close to growing up?
2. What role did your extended family play in your life?
3. Is there a relative who always offered you unique advice?
4. What’s a memorable gathering you had with your relatives?
5. How often did you see your extended family as a child? How often do you meet them now?
6. What’s one thing you learned from a relative outside your immediate family?
7. Do you have any traditions with your cousins or extended family?
8. What’s a funny story involving your relatives?
9. How do you maintain connections with your wider family now?

Questions About Their Schooling/Education/University Times

1. What was your favorite subject in school and why?
2. Who was your favorite teacher and what made them so special to you?
3. What was your biggest achievement in school or university?
4. What’s a challenge you faced during your education?
5. What kind of student were you – studious, social or rebellious?
6. What’s one thing you learned outside of academics that truly stuck with you?
7. Did you participate in any clubs, sports or activities?
8. What’s a memorable moment from your graduation?
9. What advice would you give to someone who is planning to start their education journey now?
10. How did your education shape your career choices and interests?
11. What was your favorite part of university/college life?
12. Did you have any crazy dorm stories or memorable classmates?

Questions About Their Friends Circle

1. What do you value most in a friendship?
2. How would your closest friends describe you?
3. What’s the longest friendship you’ve maintained?
4. What’s a fun memory you share with your friends?
5. What role do your friends play in your life now?
6. How do you support your friends when they’re struggling?
7. What’s one quality all your closest friends share?
8. What’s the biggest adventure you’ve had with friends?
9. Have your friendships changed over time, and if so, how?
10. What’s a life lesson you learned from a friend?
11. What makes a friendship last a lifetime for you?

Questions About Their Job

1. What’s your favorite part about your current job?
2. What’s a challenge you’ve overcome in your career?
3. What did you originally want to be when you started working?
4. What’s one skill you’ve learned from your job that you use in everyday life?
5. What’s your ideal work-life balance?
6. What’s one thing you’re passionate about in your career field?
7. How do you handle stress or difficult situations at work?
8. What’s a career dream you still hold?
9. What makes a job truly fulfilling for you?
10. What’s one thing you’d change about your current work if you could?
11. How do you unwind after a long day at work?

Questions About Their Interests/Hobbies/Dislikes

1. What’s a hobby you’re passionate about and why?
2. What’s something new you’d love to learn or try?
3. What kind of books/movies/music do you enjoy most?
4. What’s something you genuinely dislike or find annoying?
5. What’s a secret talent or interest you have?
6. What’s a perfect way for you to relax and unwind?
7. What’s a topic you could talk about for hours?
8. What makes you feel truly alive or in your element?
9. What’s something you’re surprisingly bad at, despite trying?
10. How do your hobbies connect with who you are?

Questions About Their Goals/Ambitions

1. What’s one big goal you’re working towards right now?
2. What does “success” mean to you?
3. What’s a dream you’ve had since you were young that you still hope for?
4. What legacy would you like to leave behind?
5. What’s one thing you want to achieve in the next five years?
6. What fears, if any, hold you back from your goals?
7. How do you stay motivated when things get tough?
8. What’s a small step you can take towards a big dream this week?
9. What kind of person do you aspire to be?
10. What would you do if money were no object?

Questions About Their Travel Plans/Adventure/Choices in Life

1. If you could travel anywhere right now, where would it be and why?
2. What’s one adventure you’ve always dreamed of experiencing?
3. Are you more of a planner or spontaneous person when it comes to travel/life choices?
4. What’s the most beautiful place you’ve ever seen?
5. What’s one place you feel truly at peace?
6. What kind of new experiences do you seek out?
7. If you had to live in a different country for a year, where would it be?
8. What’s a risk you’re glad you took (or wish you had)?
9. How important is travel/adventure to your overall happiness?

Questions About Their Lifestyle Choices

1. What’s your ideal way to spend a quiet weekend?
2. What does a “balanced” life look like to you?
3. What’s your relationship with social media and technology?
4. How do you prioritize your physical and mental well-being?
5. What’s one small daily ritual that brings you joy?
6. What does “home” mean to you?
7. How important is a good diet for you?

Questions About Your Relationship/Future with Them/Family Plans

1. How does our ideal future look like in 5 years?
2. What kind of family life do you imagine for us (if applicable)?
3. What’s one thing you want us to always prioritize in our relationship?
4. What’s one challenge you hope we grow through together?
5. How can I best support you through your personal goals and dreams?
6. What’s one thing you still hope to learn about me (or us) in the future?